Building Relationships (updated 04.03.2021)
Supporting relationships through reconciliation, forgiveness, apology and meeting relational needs
The learning process
Relational choices
Behaviour that puts your relationship at risk
Emotional needs
Do you know what your emotional needs are?
Love Language
The Emotional Cup
Common behaviour patterns when relational needs are not met
Good listening
Bad listening
Teaching and courses
Relationship course to build professional teams
Courses for schools
Four session course for students 15yr plus
Results of parenting programme
Using the material on this web site
Questionaire - how do you want to be loved?
We all want to be loved in a specific way. This questionaire will help you identify how you want to be loved. It will be very useful for couples and parents
Questionaire - What are your emotional needs?
We all have emotional needs. What are they? This questionaire will help you identify your emotional needs.
Love Language Questionaire for teenagers
This questionaire will help the teenager to identify how he/she wants to be loved
Love Language mystery game
This game will help pre-teenagers to identify how they want to be loved
Communication quiz - exploring gender differences
#good communication is vital for a good relationships. How good is yours?
Stepfamilies - some issues and myths to consider

Emotional needs

If our relational needs are met we feel good. If they are not met we will feel bad.

Each of us have different relational needs in different order of preference.

Below are ten key needs that most of us require to be met if we are to feel good. Each word will
mean something slightly different to different people.


Choose your 3 top needs from the list of ten below. Then guess what the 3 top needs are of someone who is close to you (business colleague, family member etc) Ask the person to do the same thing guessing your needs as well as selecting their own top 3 needs. Then compare the results. If you correctly guess 2 out of the top 3 of the other person you are doing really well. Most of us only manage to guess 1 correctly. In practice that means that most of the time we are either unaware of the essential needs of other person, or we think we know but infact are focusing on less important needs.
When you have identified each others needs then you say exactly how you want them to be met in practical terms. For example affection may be important need, but one of you wants affection expressed mainly by encouraging words while the other needs affection to be expressed through physical touch.

So do it now with someone you know and make the decision to really try to meet the needs of the other person and in the way they want them met. If this is done by both people concerned then there will be a dramatic improvement in the relationship.

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